What a week of ups and downs for my friends. From losing friends to engagements and from happiness to sorrow, it has been hard to be far away the past few days. My thoughts are with you all for both your celebrations and your sadnesses.
Of course, the biggest celebration was Kristi and TK's engagement! Congratulations again! What a great couple. After I told my office friends about their engagement the conversation immediately switched to single life. This past week I broke it off with the guy I had been dating. It was headed down a very nice and very boring road I had already traveled. So, with me added to the list of single ladies at the office, we decided to join Boulder Singles. Apparently this group I only recently heard of schedules everything fun in the city. From wine tastings to pub crawls and from sushi nights to swing lessons, we are going to (hopefully) be meeting tons of cute single guys!
This is absolutely not something I would normally do. But after ending it with the person I was dating I decided if I heard one more pick up line I might go crazy.
So that confession brings me to the title of this post: Deal Breakers. When we joined the club (which I would like to note is not online dating as much as a group social party) we filled out paperwork naming everything from "would you date a smoker?" (never) to "what are your ambitions?" (working on that one) to "what are your deal breakers?" Good question. What is the list of traits that would be an automatic "no" for you? Liar? Constantly late? Talks with his mouth full? Drinks? Lives at home? Took 7 years to get a 4 year degree? Doesn't drink? The list could go on and on.
So I scrawled out my list of "deal breakers" mostly basing these traits on past dating experiences. I'm sick and tired of settling. Settling for someone who is nice but not interesting or who is fun but annoying or who is cute but not witty or who is witty but socially retarded.
I used this list of deal breakers as my relationship "never will settle again" list. Why go out with a guy 5 times only to discover he is egotistic? Why even talk to someone if you will only discover he hates dogs?
This adventure into the weird and new world of non-bar dating should be quite interesting. I should have some fun updates around Nov. 22 when we go to our first event! Stay tuned for Boulder Dating Entertainment!!
oh man emily, that sounds like a blast. good for you- i would be doing the same thing- it sounds so fun and you will make lots of friends and im sure have lots of great stories. now make sure that henry approves because he is the main man in your life, as you know.
ReplyDeletekeep us posted- i miss you lots- are you going to be in KC/KS anytime in the near future??
This is hilarious! I applaud you for partaking in something that is sure to make great blogging. I can't wait to hear about it!
ReplyDeleteBasically "deal breakers" are the exact opposite of our conversation in the Mediterranean Sea regarding "deal makers." Of course the perfect guy is still wandering the street of Toulon looking like an all too chocolately great treat. If you meet any Nutella man through the Boulder social group marry him. Find his brother and send him my way.
Miss you so much! You're coming for New Years. I already decided for you. Love you!
oh my gosh! I love it. I cannot WAIT to hear this. I think my problem is I don't have any deal breakers. I get attached regardless. Pretty bad huh? You just inspired my next blog post, so you can read more in depth on that! :)
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